Over the years, I've had a lot of time to think. Typically I'm only thinking about pizza, but lately there has been something heavy on the brain.
In the community of trans* men that I have come in contact with, it seems as though there is a lot of competing to see who can reach each step of their transition the fastest. Why? We are all going through this process and we are all going through it differently. This is the thing you must remember if you want to keep yourself from feeling like you aren't making any progress.
You. Are. Enough.
Your battle is not the same as someone else's battle, because your body is not the same. Your mind is not the same. Your home life and your life at work aren't the same. You cannot compare your transition to someone else's. It just doesn't work like that.
LOVE YOUR STRUGGLE.
I truly cannot stress enough how much this statement has helped me in my own moments of feeling defeated. It's imperative to learn to love your current struggle and accept it before you can move onto your next step in your transition, your next step in life or even your next step in your relationship. If you don''t learn how to embrace and overcome the struggles that transitioning brings, I promise you that you will never see how far you've really come.
How you start your transition or how you choose to present yourself to others is no one else's decision but your own. It's however you feel comfortable expressing yourself in this newfound body of yours. No matter how you choose to go through this journey, no matter how slow or fast the progress is, own it. These changes that you are going through (or will be going through) are huge. They're inspring. They're important. You're important. Yes, there are those who will have their fair share of advice and info on how your transition should go, but no one truly knows except for you. Because it's how YOU feel. It's how YOU look. It's about YOUR happiness. Let all of the negativity roll off of your shoulders and be damn proud of yourself that you finally know who you are.
I'm going on 3.5 years into my transition. Recently, I was able to schedule my top surgery. After nearly 4 years. Remember that your time will come. Whether it's tomorrow or a year from now, don't worry. If you are pre-op, you are enough. If you're pre-hrt, you are enough. Even if you still haven't come out, you are enough.
Please, go out into the world and show it what you're made of. Show them you deserve it.
YOU CAN CALL ME DANISH
Writing about my life and experiences as a white, transgender, queer male.