Woo, no big surprise there, right? I know. The purpose of this post is to bring it back to the front of your mind that when going through a transition, your changes are different than others, and you need to embrace them.
I remember long ago when I was a wee lad just getting started with my shots. I saw EVERY single change. Whether it was the first few hairs starting to appear in my sideburns, my voice starting to crack or even the veins in my hands starting to become more prominent. I saw it happening and I was excited.
Don't let anyone yuck your yum
Your body is magical. Right now, you have completely different cells in your body than you did when you were born. How neat is that? You know your body more than anyone else. when you start to see that hair coming in on your chin, celebrate it. When you start to see more definition in your arms or your shirts starting to fit you better, scream and shout about it. YOU ROCK. If someone makes a comment that it's "too early" to see changes, let it roll off your shoulders. Everyone's body is different. Maybe it's taking longer for them to see changes, maybe their dose is different than yours. Keep in mind that you're fabulous and living life for yourself.
Assume positive intent
If you do ever experience anyone saying any of these things to you, it's best to keep in mind that perhaps they aren't doing it to be mean or malicious. Often times, especially in the way society is now we are quick to judge or quick to assume someone is trying to be mean or start a fight. This is when we need to assume positive intent. Perhaps they're making these comments in comparison to when they first started to see their changes. That's okay. Everyone's changes are different. Simply assume positive intent and keep on rollin'.
If you feel like you pass, then you pass.
This is something that I had such a hard time adjusting to. I had a very feminine voice and super soft facial features. It took quite some time to start feeling like I passed when I started testosterone. Since being on Testosterone for nearly 4 years, I've learned that the spectrum of masculinity is VERY broad. I've witnessed biological men getting misgendered and it was at that moment that it clicked. All men are different, everyone's body's are different. Everyone's changes are different. I know that we have these ideas in our mind of what we want our end-goal to be or what we might think it will be. The one thing I wish I would have kept in mind during the first stages of my transition is to embrace the present. Rock it. Flaunt it. Work it.
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Writing about my life and experiences as a white, transgender, queer male.