Look at that, another year has come and gone. Where are you at with your transition compared to where you want to be? I know, I've been there too. I'm the king of procrastinating, but this isn't something that you want to put off. This is your happiness and your future. Below is a guide on how to create a realistic checklist for you and your transition for 2017.
1. MAke it simple!
Having a checklist to stick to for an entire year is a daunting task in itself. The last thing you want to do is overwhelm yourself with a bunch of major list items. All you're going to want to do is throw it out or delete it. Creating a list of important yet simple things is going to make you feel more inspired because they will be easier to cross off!
2. MAke it specific!
Now that you have your general idea of the simple items you want to have on your list, make sure they are specific. Often times when a list of goals is made, the list-maker can easily get lost when trying to recall what they meant when they created their list. That's why it's best to make your list items as specific as you can. (i.e. "order a binder by [insert date] or "save $100 for gender therapist by [insert date]).
3. put the items most important to you first.
Nothing is going to make you feel better than taking care of the most important tasks that are holding you back from being comfortable in your transition. Putting these items first on the list is really going to help in keeping you motivated throughout the year and help to keep your momentum going.
4. celebrate your accomplishments.
Each time an item is crossed off of this list, celebrate it! Take yourself to lunch, go have a drink, go on a celebratory hike, text a friend and tell them how awesome you are, make it a big to-do! You deserve this. Look at you go, taking care of yourself and your future.
5. remind yourself of what you've already done
Acknowledging what you've already crossed off of your list will really put things into perspective and keep that fire lit under your booty. Reflecting on past accomplishments will show you that you can do anything!
6. make multiple copies.
Keeping one list for the entire year may prove to be difficult, so make more than one! Email a copy to yourself, write one out and put it on the refrigerator. Tuck one under your matress, put it in your shoe even! You want to make sure that you don't lose your list so you don't have to start over.
Here is an example of what my list looks like for 2017:
I encourage you to write a few drafts of your list if you have to. Really make sure that the items on your list are things you know you can accomplish. Even if you know it might not be for a few months, write it down anyway. Then, you can look back on all that you have done throughout the year and compare where you were to where you are. It'll help you to write a better list for the years to come!
YOU CAN CALL ME DANISH
Writing about my life and experiences as a white, transgender, queer male.